Thursday 28 February 2013

So sad....

So i ended up getting spanked last night anyway. That is not why i am still uoset. As i mentioned i am in a very difficult situation.I really do feel that i can do no right where SirDD is concerned. Everyday i dont stop from 7am to midnight. I am continuously doing things to please him and i enjoy doing these things. when i get in from work i am like most people doing houzework and caring for my child. I always get changed and put make up etc on just before sie DD comes back. So i am all dresses up and he gwts into p's. Again i dont mind that but i never get to relax. The main issue i have is that when i talk, well when i try to i am normally talked down to or patronised as if i am beneath him and i certainly dont feel luke his equal. When i say little i am told i am sulking. I really cannot win and i have got to the point where i dont know what to do anymore. Again please excuze spelling errors. This was writteen on my phone

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  1. Sorry to read this. Does sir DD read your blog? have you specifically stated this complaint to him? He likely does not realise what he is doing and how it affects you.

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  2. Hi Malcolm,

    Yes he reads my blog and yes he comments or posts on it sometimes too. Thats the worst thing, i have spoken to him about how i feel several times but nothing happens. He doesnt listen to me but then as i said when i try to talk i am spoken down to and basically told to shut up. I can never express my feelings as to him emotion is a sign of weakness. Like yesturday i waited till he had popped out then i cried my eyes out,

    Princess x

    Princess

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  3. He has slowly started to admit when he is wrong but it is a constant battle and i am tired. Thing is a do love him so much and i do not give up that easily!

    Princess x

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  4. You sound like you are miserable Princess. It breaks my heart to hear a wife saying she feels not listened to, unappreciated and always in the wrong. There must be some way for him to admit when he's wrong, we're all human and we all make mistakes. You can't have a relationship with a robot. Relationships are between two people and each person needs to have and express feelings.

    Sorry hunny

    Callie

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  5. Hi Callie,

    At the moment i am miserable, very unhappy and the one person i should be able to speak to is him, yet i cant for the reasons i explained before. I dont feel as if i am able to say how i feel without being talked down to but as i said i love him and i dont give up,

    Princess x

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  6. Sorry to read about your problems Princess.
    If what you feel in your heart is true then I would stop all DD activities and sit down and talk to him about how you feel.
    From what I've read you are no longer in a safe DD relationship because he is no longer taking your feeling into consideration and he seems not to care what you think any more. It's going to be his way no matter what you say.
    Please take care of yourself.

    Bob

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  7. I hear you girl, it is not easy dealing with. I just think that you should dismiss everything that he says and pay no attention to it. You know who you are and how you are. Do not let anyone ever change your own opinions of yourself. He honestly needs to know how it feel and I'm sorry but I don't know how to go about doing that. I would recommend not talking to him and when he wants to know why, you should tell him that you are not going to talk to someone who is speaking to you that way. Don't put up with it! Trust me, if you do, it will only get worse. I am in the same position as you and I understand completely what you are saying. Good luck, I hope you can find a solution!! XOXO -Stubborn

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  8. Princess, unfortunately nothing I do is right, you accuse me of being right all the time, when I say that I'm not you say I'm being patronising, I try to be nice even when your being cold, you say I'm being patronising, you have a go at me and I defend myself, you say I am being controlling and that you are not allowed an opinion. You accuse me of all sorts of things that I have not done and I defend myself, you say I am controlling, you are so jealous that I cannot even watch a film without derision. I laughed when you said I was having an affair, when ai spend every minute with you, and you say I am bullying, I love you so much princess, let me know what you want xxx

    SirDD

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  9. Princess, unfortunately nothing I do is right, you accuse me of being right all the time, when I say that I'm not you say I'm being patronising, I try to be nice even when your being cold, you say I'm being patronising, you have a go at me and I defend myself, you say I am being controlling and that you are not allowed an opinion. You accuse me of all sorts of things that I have not done and I defend myself, you say I am controlling, you are so jealous that I cannot even watch a film without derision. I laughed when you said I was having an affair, when ai spend every minute with you, and you say I am bullying, I love you so much princess, let me know what you want xxx

    SirDD

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  10. Both of you quit your shit and get real! She wants love, stability respect, CONSISTENCY and strength from her man and for you Princess- he wants obedience, freedom, respect, love CONSISTENCY and respect. Both of you are at fault and both of you need to have a little more humility about this relationship. Both of you need to admit you have flaws and work that shit out.

    I'm sorry for the harsh words but I am sick of reading blogs where couples do nothing but complain and blame! You are grown ups! Children do that bickering stuff- both of you should know better.

    If My husband and I disagree or have an argument both of us apologize to the other first (even if we don't believe we did anything wrong). It is a "no reprocussion" convo where we can be brutally (but respectfully) honest without "fear" of punishment or getting the cold shoulder. I am not saying this would work for everyone but i am saying that Relationships are not 50% /50% deals if both people aren't giving 100% it won't work.

    SirrDD a spoonful of humility wouldn't hurt you- it will make you sexier in your Princess' eyes and it will give her MORE reason to respect you. Put some of that in your morning tea and drink a dose daily! I can personally promise you will notice and experience the difference!

    Good vibes and wishes going your way!

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